Listen to your heart…
No, not the Roxette song from the late 80s and I’m not talking in the romantic sense either.
Listen to your heart… Open your heart…
The universe has been conspiring to place women in my path to ensure I get the message:
Get out of your head and into your heart.
A couple of years ago I did some work with a Jungian therapist. I was struggling with grief, ongoing stress, ill health. She encouraged me to listen to my unconscious. Allow the dreams. Hear the messages. Listen to my heart, to my soul, to my true self. Nurture my creativity, my feminine self.
How do you want to feel?
What does my heart say? How do I want to feel?
Not do. Not achieve. Radical. Core Desired Feelings.
I want to feel connected, creative, radiant, nourished, invigorated.
Next across my path came Brené Brown and her Ted Talk on vulnerability and the book The Gifts of Imperfection. All the things Brené talks about cultivating – authenticity, self-compasssion, a resilient spirit, gratitude and joy and so on – are about opening your heart, sitting with that vulnerability and using your whole heart to live.
Be seen. Develop meaningful connection with others. Oh yes!
Yin Yang Mother recently wrote about opening your heart from a yogic perspective. She talked about noticing your breathing: does your chest fill completely or does it catch? Your back: does your thoracic spine or shoulders fold forward around your heart? This restriction, this pain is actually imprisoning your heart, not protecting it.
Yes, my body is closing in in my heart both physically and emotionally. I have headaches, painfully tight muscles. Practising a gentle bridge pose over a bolster helps open my chest physically and exposes my heart to vulnerability. I sometimes cry. I’m learning to be more comfortable with that and to be patient and kind.
The gentle and insightful Kirri White wrote yet another raw and open piece on self-care – taking a mindful pause. I find this strategy incredibly powerful.
But what am I actually doing when I press pause?
I’m listening to my heart.
I’ve been going to Kelly Burch‘s Fill Your Cup sessions and learning to use EFT to work with energy and emotions. I feel difficult emotions most often in my heart. The tapping helps me to listen patiently, evolve it and increase the positive energy. By the end of a session, my heart is often bursting with warm, loving, kind energy!
One of Fat Mum Slim’s Photo A Day recent prompts was “Listening to…”
My heart. My heart said I was listening to my heart.
My heart said be creative. I thought I’d try to draw or paint a heart rather than find some other image to photograph. I tried to sit with the uncomfortable feelings/thoughts (“but I’m hopeless at art”) and just make marks on the paper. Deb Dane‘s constant example helped inspire and encourage me.
Again with the vulnerability and fear when I shared my chosen image on Instagram and Facebook. But I’m so glad I did. It connected me with most of those core desired feelings. I felt radiant, invigorated, creative.
Deep gratitude to the women who put themselves out there, allow themselves to be vulnerable by showing us their heart and in so doing, uplift others around the planet.
OK Mother Universe. I’m listening! I commit to allowing my heart to guide me rather than the sometimes crazy stuff that whirls around inside my head.
How do you listen to your heart? What does it tell you?